Only those who have been a registered user of Mumsnet for at least 90 days can post in this topic. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewerand support Mumsnet. DP and Woman looking casual sex Purcell Oklahoma are going through a dry spell and I'm looking for advice on how to fix it.
Before DC1 came along, everything was normal, plenty of holding hands, kissing, touching, in-out-in-out etc. We d sex pretty quickly after DC1 arrived Mobile homes for rent to own in north carolina I soon realised it was always me initiating it. He was a willing participant but never did anything to make it happen.
Even during the actual deed, he did very little, favouring the sack-of-potatoes approach to intimacy. DP was ambivalent about having a second child, as DC1 was difficult and exhausting. Once I was pregnant with DC2, he still didn't initiate sex. I was halfway through an uncomfortable pregnancy when the pandemic struck.
About the author
Lockdown with a tantrumming DC1 was extremely stressful, I had awful back pain and sex was the first thing to go. Didn't care, just in survival mode.
We have both been very cautious Adult x finder covid, probably overly so, which has kept us in that stressed out, hunkered down, survival mode longer than most other people. Now, a year later, things are improving.
How to bust through a dry spell in your relationship:
DC1 has suddenly grown up and is much more pleasant to live with. I've just finished feeding DC2 so that commitment has lifted.
And our closed, anxious little world is opening up - we have been meeting friends in the park and we went to eat out for the first time yesterday. We are agreed that DC2 is our last, so there are no tensions over that. It feels like the right time to Long term effects of cannabis use to break the dry spell. I miss sex but mostly I just fear the status quo will become permanent and fatally damage our relationship.
Looking for sex tonight in your area?
We hold hands, occasional hug or peck on the lips if I initiate it, but that's it. We might be less stressed, but we are tired and have no free time.
DP has no energy in the mornings. During the week we WFH but his work is busy all Swinging photo ads mine less so atm. By the time the kids are in bed, we're both shattered.
Middle of the night we both want to sleep. Weekends DC need constant supervision. A weekend away without the kids would be lovely but even if we managed to get childcare, it would be a lot of pressure and anyway, it would be one weekend, not a regular solution.
Why some guys go for months or years without having sex or a relationship with a new woman
Besides, the elephant in the room How to break a dry spell that DP hasn't initiated any kind of affection for so long that I suspect this may Married wives looking hot sex Stoke-on-Trent a bigger issue than just stress, tiredness and time.
Any suggestions for how I can handle this gently? Sex is a very important part of a relationship. Good luck. Trying to read between the lines it sounds like sex has gone from something to enjoy to a chore for your husband. Personally I would say forget about the sex for now and think about your relationship, and trying to get the love back into that and the sex should just follow naturally. Hi OP, if you are on Instagram take a look at thesexdoctor The website is thehavelockclinic. I think one of her resources is about having a sex life post children.
I hope things improve for you. Thanks all for your replies and for being so nice about it! I'll Casual Hook Ups Hanna Indiana a look at those resources and try some of your suggestions. And I think you're right about it becoming a chore - adding it to the To Do list isn't going to help! Already have a Mumsnet ? Log in. Talk ». How to break a dry spell 6 Posts. Add message Report. Add message Report See all. the discussion To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet.
Mumsnet Already have a Mumsnet ? Start new thread in this topic Watch this thread Flip this thread Refresh the display.